Rebecca B – Congratulations to my queen!

Firstly I want to wish a humongous congratulations to this beautiful woman for graduating and completing university. Rebecca - I am so proud of you. Not only because you aced your degree and studied to show yourself approved - but also because of the growth I have witnessed in your life; the impact you've had …

“False Self” & Modern Christians

Wonderful… “the True Self is a sense of being alive and real in one’s mind and body, having feelings that are spontaneous and unforced.”

The Smiling Pilgrim

With my blog I try and challenge and inspire.  Challenging perceptions and ideas is important – It is how we grow.

I have done this by the social angle, I have done this by the philosophical angle, and I have done this by a religious angle.

Now maybe time for a Psychological Angle? 😉

In Donald Winnicott’s thought there is a “True Self and False Self”.

True self

“Only the true self can be creative and only the true self can feel real.”  For Winnicott, the True Self is a sense of being alive and real in one’s mind and body, having feelings that are spontaneous and unforced. This experience of aliveness is what allows people to be genuinely close to others, and to be creative.

False self

In Winnicott’s writing, the “False Self” is a defence, a kind of mask of behaviour that complies with others’ expectations. Winnicott…

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Would you miss me?

If I died would you miss me? Would my absence leave a void Or would life move on as normal? Will you stop at random moments During the day as time stood still, And you remember the good times, The laughter - The memories. Would you miss me? Or would you forget I ever existed.

My Comparison Confession

Hey guys!

I remember watching a sermon from Papa Kris on jealousy and he mentioned that “Discernment anointed by Jealousy resulted in Suspicion“. This really stuck with me.

A couple of weeks later someone influential I know started organising something for a group of women. From the get-go they had made their intentions clear that they wanted me to be a part of it (hurray!); and this meant I got insider information on who else may be invited to take part.

One of the nights she mentioned to me a girl who I didn’t know very well. From the little I knew of her, she was cool I guess – but I didn’t hold back from voicing my “concerns” over her being there. In my head I didn’t think she was spiritually mature enough, or trustworthy.

I went home that night and slept on it. And that quote from Papa Kris popped up in my head, and I realised that I was simply threatened by this girl. I wanted to be the youngest person present, I wanted to be special – and if she was there – then there’d be two of us occupying similar roles.

As soon as I realised this – I rebuked it and repented. It is for my Fathers glory that all of His daughters flourish and I dare not allow the devil to utilise me to stunt that growth.

That morning I quickly messaged the woman and sang (genuine) praises over the girl; God had removed the scales from my eyes allowing me to see what He saw. I talked about her humility, how servant-hearted she was, and how unique and useful her voice would be – it would be such an honour to have her there. Funnily, she texted me back saying that during her time of prayer, she felt God say that the girl should be there!

So imagine that! Jealously can actually make you an enemy of God. The enemy is able to use you and I to quench the work of the Holy Spirit if we allow him.

Let us be vigilant.

I have since spoken to the girl (casually) and I’m excited at the prospect of becoming friends – her heart is gold and she shines in brilliance. By God’s grace I am totally free to love her and will not be used by the enemy to cause division and spread suspicion. (Somebody say Ay-to-the-MEN!)

I hope you enjoy the following post on Comparison and Jealousy by Nia-Cerise; I have also attached the said sermon by my wonderful Papa Kris – enjoy!

Kingdom Business

A year and a half ago, God began giving me more confidence to share my faith online. As I began sharing the Gospel of Jesus Christ through social media, I soon noticed a very prominent speaker preaching the Gospel and encouraging the youth generation in their faith in Christ. This popular speaker was shockingly beautiful, smart and anointed to ignite a fire within the hearts of the youth for Christ through her ministry named Kingdom Ambassadors. Some of you reading this may know her as Caitlin Nunez.

It soon came to my attention that I seemed to have a problem with this person and as God increased my influence online I began to increasingly compare myself to this young lady who did not even know me. Concluding that something just didn’t seem right about her, I grew more and more suspicious and sceptical about this person and their…

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Why I don’t like the phrase: “I want a deeper relationship with God.”

Hi guys! Today I was faced with a rather challenging (but refreshing) question. I was in my kitchen cooking something sweet potato-based (I'm simply loving sweet potato these days!) and so I opened a Periscope video to keep me company. It was a fellowship/worship gathering whereby many young people were crying out at the alter - …

“as long as it makes you happy…”

"as long as it makes you happy..." This is a term I have heard a lot recently from friends and family who truly mean well and wish the best for whatever my future entails. But something about that statement doesn't sit well with me. In actual fact, when making major decisions I rarely take "happiness" into …